The term “coach” has become a buzzword these days. There are life coaches, health coaches, sales coaches and others. People seem to want someone to “coach” them. However, I believe what people are really wanting is a cheerleader.
In the realm of “personal development” people want to be told, “You can do it! I’m rooting for you.” Cheerleaders tend to offer praise before goal is reached, in hopes of inspiring the players, crowd, etc. to reach the goal. Coaching isn’t quite the same.
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Do you think you are a knucklehead? Maybe others think that about you. Either way, I have good news — there is hope for you.
A little History…
In my late teens and early 20s, my “knuckleheadedness” was in full motion. I was irresponsible, short-sighted and somewhat arrogant. Each weekend meant consuming too much alcohol, spending too much money and usually doing something stupid.
Each week, I would have to deal with the fallout of the previous weekend. Sometimes it was as “simple” as a hangover headache. Other times it was property damage or relationship destruction.
As a member of the military during that time, my superiors did not take kindly to my antics. In fact, I garnered the nickname “Airman Screwup.”
Things came to a head when I bounced several checks at local merchants and my First Sergeant sent me to Correctional Custody (Minimum Security Jail) for the weekend. I had to break the news to my fiancee, who was more than a little upset with me.
While I was “semi-incarcerated,” a light switch turned on inside my brain. I knew if I continued down this path, it will lead to my destruction — and I would lose the most important person in my life.
I would like to say that from that point on I didn’t do anything stupid. Wouldn’t we all like to say that? I did, however, do fewer stupid things, and started on a path toward maturity.
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If I were to compare myself to Michael Hyatt, I would feel pretty inadequate. Michael’s “Intentional Leadership” blog has more than 365,000 total subscribers. I have 41 (as of this writing).
His blog averages more than 302,000 unique visitors per month. Mine averages 164.
Michael has nearly 167,000 Twitter followers. I have 287.
Sounds pretty depressing doesn’t it? Well, it isn’t depressing at all.